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No Pain; No Gain! Cleaning Out the Emotional Closet
Introducing, my wife, Enne, as a guest blogger. We have been married almost 33 years. She is Mom to our three grown children, Queenie to our two grandsons, a Mentor Mom to a MOPS group and a high school teacher at Colorado Springs Christian School Have you ever cleaned out a closet? What happens to…
Avoiding The Point Of No Return
“He who is often reproved, yet stiffens his neck, will suddenly be broken beyond healing.” (Proverb 29:1) If we reject correction, there will come a time we won’t be able to change. A fool rejects input from one who loves him. A wise man is one who hears those who love him. My father-in-law…
The Three R’s
Even though I’m a teacher, the R’s I’m referring to are not Reading, Writing and Arithmetic. And that doesn’t make sense anyway – only one word begins with an R! Last summer, we were consumed with a remodeling project prompted by an overflowing washing machine. It struck me (in the middle of the night when…
The Learning Process
“You change your attitude, young man!” We have all probably heard that statement from at least one of our parents while growing up. I believe your attitude determines your actions. I mentioned in my blog “Learning From Our Mistakes,” that I don’t call a so-called mistake, a mistake if we learn from it. I submit it…
Learning From Our Mistakes
My son-in-law has challenged me to write about how to come back from mistakes. It made sense. Of course! Readers want encouragement on how to move on, how to make beauty from the ash heap they have created. I agree, after screwing up, we can be very down on ourselves, and we can easily spend…
A Cultural Shift
We have lost our way because of cultural pressure. Men are seen as wimps, incompetent, foolish, childish, 30 is the new 15. Men are not maturing beyond playing with toys – the toys just have more horsepower and cost more. They resist taking responsibility. Men have stepped away from taking charge and leading. Culture says…
Man After God's Heart
Our culture looks for manly men, the Bear Grylls type, the Mt. Everest climbers, adventurous men. And, too many men seek to be the rough, tough, have it all together type showing no emotion — “mister macho.” We have put little value on a man that can establish relationships and maintain them and lead with…
Husbands Love Your Wives
Husbands, please love your wives! Marriages are falling apart! And much of the reason and responsibility is on the husband. Husbands are not loving their wives. It is the husband’s role to set the tone for the marriage relationship. Men are called to lead their families and a big part of that is loving their…
Being a Mentor
In a previous post, “We Can’t Go It Alone”, there are three relationships that are important to have in life: a mentor, a peer, and a protégé/apprentice. In “A Mentor Is a Must” and “Peer To Peer” I elaborate on the first two. Here I want to finish this series and discuss the importance of…
Excuses Don’t Produce Results
One thing in life we can bank on is interruptions. Our life, our plans, our goals will be interrupted. Either we will create them or someone or something will. However, we can adapt to/overcome the interruption and move forward. Or, we can get discouraged and miss out on a positive result. I have only posted…
Our Story
“Why did you tell us this?” our kids asked. They wondered how something that happened before they were born could possibly be relevant. Well, this is why we told them and why we are telling you: God has healed our marriage in a miraculous way, but not without many years of hard work. We want…
Traditions
Traditions seem to be a thing of days gone by. I have fond memories of traditional events as I grew up. In a very real way, they formed me. We have lost the art of building traditions, repeating annual events that each year our kids and families look forward to. We asked our kids about…
Peer to Peer
Life is difficult alone, and having a true friend makes it easier. We, as men, think we can be Lone Rangers – we are wrong. We were designed to be relational and share life with others. Let down your guard, and let another man into your life. Growing up, I didn’t have any real…
Chaos
In general, we as men are poor at dealing with the chaos around us. We avoid it at all cost; it even, in some cases, paralyzes us. Or, better stated, we allow it to paralyze us. We do well at making order out of chaos in our jobs, but when it comes to relationships, we…
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